Emily brought something to my attention a few days ago that really got me thinking. We, along with our close friend Tim Mrock, were discussing what would change once Emily and I are officially husband and wife. In my head, there would be this dramatic shift in thinking, worlds would collide and the heavens would open up to turn my life upside down. Cold feet? No, just paranoia.
But Emily said something that put it all in perspective for me. We are already married. You see, Em and I have been living together now for a year and a half. I moved into her condo in August of 06 and to be honest, it was a leap of faith. Before that, we had been together for 3 years but had become stagnant with our relationship idling by as we watched other's progress down the road to eternity. So when we made the decision to live a joint life, it was really a sink or swim situation.
Luckily, we survived. I can honestly say it was the best decision of my life. Our relationship is by no means a perfect one. We still fight, still piss each other off, and we definitely still have a lot to learn but we also make each other happy, care deeply for one another and most importantly, visualize a future with one another.
When we finally tie the knot, we will have been together for 5 years. During that time, we have been through a lot. We both graduated university, both got big person jobs, and even broken up twice. The longest was for 5 days and it was a very miserable time. But now here we are having weathered the storms ready for whatever life hands us.
So, she is right, not much will really change. We will still live together, still pay the same bills, still fight about the same stupid shit, still have a crazy dog who thinks he's in charge, but most importantly, still love one another with all our hearts.
